Off to the Town of Transplants
A Move of Self-Discovery
My first task was to figure out what were the interests that I wanted to explore. With my background being in a majority of music and arts, I had wanted to pursue interests that I never tried before and I wanted to open my horizon to different hobbies as well. I started to find new hobbies, ranging from Doctor Who watching, to knitting, watching movies and cooking new dishes. With a strong idea of what I enjoyed spending my time on I first set sights on meeting other fans of movies. I figured it was a good way to meet other people who were sociable but also enjoyed spending time by themselves in a theater.
I had remembered learning of a website called Meetup.com, where people could get together with like minded folks to venture off and explore in different activities. In my search of groups to join, one of them that caught my attention from the very get-go was the STL Nerdy Girls. With a name like that, the feminist inside of me was elated by an idea of a group of women getting together to hang out, be intellectual and with my new love of all things Doctor Who, this group was encouraging me to be nerdy! I immediately joined and signed up for my first event, a showing of William Shakespeare’s “Twelfth Night” which was to be viewed in the famous Forest Park. My nerves were a wreck just thinking about throwing myself into a new environment and I wasn’t sure what to expect from my first encounter with the Nerdy Girls. Luckily for me, on the night of the event I was greeted with smiles, beer, Shakespeare and hummus to the effect that I calmed down and realized I was in good company. Under the vastness of Midwestern sky, sitting in the grass and barely listening to actors portraying this great play, I fell in love with the city this night and with it, an appreciation for this group. For I saw the opportunity to really allow myself to be a part of something great. I had what I call a ‘Casablanca’ moment and thought to myself, “This is the beginning of a beautiful friendship”.
“We will draw the curtain and show you the picture”
That leap was the best thing that I could have ever done for myself because it allowed me to be open to the opportunities that I would have usually just ignored. It all began like a whirl-wind, time started to fly by as I filled my calendar with events ranging from yoga in the park, eating out at restaurants, and to crafting in a coffee shop on Sunday afternoons. I was meeting so many women that were successful and led interesting lives; women that were like me – a fresh transplant – to other women that had their Master’s degrees and even had children. They all existed alongside me, in languish to grow and meet new people that it was an amazing feat to be in such commonplace with this group and its variety of people from all walks of life. With that, I was beginning to feel myself grow happier and more confident with every new person I met. My goal was to ultimately find friendships that gave me a positive influence and outlook on the world. I grew tired of living and surrounding myself around doubt and anger that I knew what I needed the most was someone to fall back on. What I started to gain from being a member of this group was acceptance and that was exactly what I had hoped to get out of the group in order to feel more at home in a new city.
N.G. FOR LIFE
Author: Carolyn Noe
Carolyn is the Founder & Executive Director of Super Heroines, Etc. She is a recent transplant to Cincinnati and lives with her husband and her dog. She regularly nerds out about Parks & Rec, Firefly, and Pride & Prejudice.